Dating safely: a practical guide to meeting someone from online

Most people you'll meet online are exactly who they say they are: someone local, a bit nervous, hoping to meet someone nice. A few sensible habits make it safer for everyone, and they soon become second nature. Here's what we suggest, from the first message to the first date.

While you're chatting

Keep the conversation on the site

There's no rush to swap numbers or move to WhatsApp. Chatting on Go Cardiff Dating keeps our safety tools working for you, and the site will warn you if it spots someone trying to move the conversation elsewhere...a common scam tactic.

Look for verified profiles

ID verification is free for every member, and verified members carry a badge. It's not the only sign of a genuine person, but it helps. Why not verify your own profile too?

Protect your personal details

Your profile only shows your nearest town, never your address, and your real name and email aren't shown publicly. Keep it that way in conversation: no home address, workplace, or anything that makes you easy to find until you're comfortable.

Never send money

However convincing the story...a stranded traveller, a medical bill, a business opportunity...never send money or gift cards to someone you haven't met. It's the clearest warning sign there is. Report it and move on.

Before you meet

• Have a video call. A few minutes on camera confirms they are who they say they are, and it takes the edge off first-date nerves.
• Tell a friend. Share who you're meeting, where and when, and arrange to message them afterwards.
• Choose a public place. A busy café, pub or a popular walk. Save the remote clifftop for when you know each other better.
• Make your own way there and back. It means you can leave whenever you like.

On the date

• Keep it short...a coffee or a walk rather than a whole day.
• Keep an eye on your drink and your belongings.
• Trust your instincts. If something feels off, it's fine to leave. You don't owe anyone an explanation.

If something doesn't feel right

You can block anyone instantly so they can no longer contact or see you, and report a member or a message from within the site. Our human support team is available 24/7. If you're ever in immediate danger, call 999.

Read more about how we protect members on our Trust & Safety page, or find some low-pressure first date ideas in Cardiff.

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