How to write a dating profile that gets replies

Your profile does the talking before you've said a word. The good news is that it doesn't need to be clever or polished. The profiles that get replies are usually the ones that sound like a real person, with a couple of clear photos and something to talk about. Here's how to get yours there.

Start with your photos

Most people look at photos first, so give them a good reason to keep reading.

• Lead with a clear, smiling face. Good light, no sunglasses, and just you in the picture. Daylight by a window or outdoors is ideal.
• Add a couple of everyday shots. In Bute Park, in the garden, with the dog. They say more about your life than any description.
• Keep them recent. A photo from ten years ago only sets up an awkward first date.
• Skip the group shots. Nobody should have to guess which one is you.

Write like you talk

Imagine you're telling a friendly stranger about yourself over a cup of tea. A few short, honest lines beat a long list of adjectives. Instead of "I'm fun, kind and outgoing", show it: "Happiest on a Sunday walk round Roath Park Lake with a flask of coffee, and I'll always stop to say hello to your dog."

Specific details give people something to reply to. "I like walking" is hard to answer. "I'm walking the Wales Coast Path in stages and I've two to go" is an easy opener.

Say what you're looking for

You don't need to write a job description, but a line about what you'd like helps the right people find you. Friendship first, something long term, someone to explore Cardiff with. Being clear up front saves everyone time and tends to bring better matches.

Keep it positive

It's tempting to list what you don't want, but a profile full of "no time wasters" reads as tired before anyone has said hello. Talk about what you enjoy and what you're hoping for instead.

Make the most of the small things

• Choose your interests. Shared interests are the easiest way into a first conversation.
• Verify your profile. ID verification is free for every member, and a verified badge tells people you're genuine.
• Read it back. Check spelling, then ask yourself: would I message this person?
• Update it now and then. A new photo or a fresh line about what you've been up to keeps it current.

Then say hello

A good profile works best alongside a friendly first message. Mention something from their profile, ask a simple question, and keep it short. If you're planning ahead, our first date ideas in Cardiff are full of easy suggestions.

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